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Bride Blog: Engagements

Posted Feb 13 2015, 5:50 am


This is Laurie, Shelley’s assistant.  In January, we started a Bride Blog to celebrate Shelley’s new four-book series Amish Brides of Pinecraft.  She has invited her Amish author friends to answer a wedding-related question each month, and their responses will be featured in this blog.  January was devoted to proposals.  This month we’ll be talking all about engagements! 

Travis and I dated for seven years before we got engaged in October of 2000, and we were married on October 20, 2001.  It’s important to note that we don’t celebrate “Hallmark Holidays.”  During our engagement, I quickly confirmed vendors for our big day.  It wasn’t until I began to search for a florist that I ran into some problems.  I was told by florist after florist that they weren’t willing to book our event because they would be too busy filling Sweetest Day orders.  SAY WHAT?  To my disbelief, I learned we had accidentally chosen to get married on Sweetest Day!  You’ve GOT to be kidding me!  I eventually found a florist who was willing to work with us, but I’ll save that story for another day.  How long was your engagement?  In what month did you get married?  Here’s what some of your favorite authors had to say:

Beth Shriver

beth shriver Amish picture for bride blog  engagementJune! Of course! 

My husband proposed on Christmas, and we were married on 6/11/88.

This is an Amish picture made by my relative.


Jennifer Beckstrand

I got engaged in January and was married in August, thirty-one years ago. When we got engaged, my husband’s parents were living in Somalia working for USAID. We flew there and lived with them for three months before the wedding–in very separate rooms, of course! Somalia with its huge and plentiful bugs, horrible drivers, and poverty-stricken populace, was quite a culture shock to a twenty-year-old girl who hadn’t ever ventured far from home. Somalia is a Moslem country, and I grew to love the people and understand their faith much better. They were generous, highly intelligent, and extremely gracious to us bright-eyed ex-pats. It was quite an engagement. I fell deeper in love with my fiancé, and my poor mom did a lot of the wedding planning on her own while I was away.

Mary Ellis

I got engaged in August on my parents’ wedding anniversary. When my boyfriend and I went out to dinner to help Mom and Dad celebrate, Ken decided to get romantic and popped the question at the end of the evening. We were engaged around 10 months and married six days after our college graduation in June. Happy Valentines Day everyone!

Amy Lillard

Again I get to absolutely flabbergast you with just how romantic my life is. See, I actually got my engagement ring the December after my husband and I started dating. Nothing was ever officially said about getting married. We just knew that one day we would. So after he slammed into the apartment and asked me to marry him in such a sweet and romantic way, we sat down to choose our wedding date.

At the time we were living in Borger, Texas. For those of you who don’t know it’s about an hour north of Amarillo in the Texas Panhandle. We knew that we wanted to get back to Oklahoma to get married. Well, he did. All of my family had moved back to the Deep South by this time and I didn’t have any kin in Oklahoma. But he wanted his mother to at least be involved. So we planned out the time when we could take a vacation and ‘go home’ to get married. That time happened to be March. And the first Monday (yes, I got married on a Monday, but that’s another romantic story for another day.) happened to be the 5th. Can you get any sweeter than that?

Technically, our engagement was from December to March so three months, unless you want to count from the time he gave me my ring until the time we got married which was three years.

This year we are creeping up on our official twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. I’ve already gotten my present: a brand new French door, freezer in the bottom refrigerator. See? I told you that you would be flabbergasted! (Though in truth, I love it more than diamonds! So romantic!)

Amy Clipston

Joe and I were engaged on July 8, 1997, and we were married on June 20, 1998.  I wanted to be a cliché June bride. We didn’t have much money but managed to save $25 per week toward our wedding. I bought a wedding planning journal, and I enjoyed making lists and writing notes in it. It was such a fun time! 

Vannetta Chapman

I was engaged for three months, and we were married in July!

 Kelly Irvin

Since Tim and I had only known each other three months when we got married, I guess you could call our engagement short and sweet.  We went right from the proposal to wedding planning!

Shelley Shepard Gray

Our engagement was eleven months and we were married in July, much to my dad’s dismay.  My father planned my whole wedding and had wanted me to be a June bride.  I’m still not exactly sure why he thought that was so important!  We were married in downtown Houston on July 8th.  Everyone still talks about how hot and humid it was!

Did you have a short or long engagement?  Did you plan your wedding or did you delegate the job to someone else?  We would love to hear your engagement stories.  Check back with us next month to read about wedding locations and venues!



7 responses to “Bride Blog: Engagements”

  1. Sharrie says:

    We were engaged for three months and married in November 1982

  2. Love, love, love reading all these engagement stories. Thank you to Laurie for putting this all together! Happy Valentine’s Day!

  3. Robin Bunting says:

    engagement stories are so fun to read. how very different everyone’s is and that makes each one very special.

    We got engaged on Valentine’s Day, 1984 and married in June the same year. Our date for our wedding was dictated by the church availability.

  4. Dali Castillo says:

    We got married four months from when we began talking and forging a friendship. As untraditional as it sounds, on Friday, April 8, 1982, we were married in the judge’s chambers with my parents and his cousins as our witnesses. Thirty-two years, 3 children (Jael 30, Amarilys 28, & Zachary 23), & 1 grandchild (Jayden Yahir 2) later, we’ve never looked back or wished we’d done it differently.

  5. I think that Vannetta and I had the same ideas. We dated for two months, got engaged and married 6 monnths later. AND…. we’ve been married for 45 years!

  6. Christina says:

    100% agreed. I've read them more than 5 times, probably about 20, I'm not sure. I still get it, every time. Hell, I even got it from reading this review and I hae3v&#0n9;t even got my copy of the book to read along with. I can just imagine Pan clinging to her chest as well, I think his reaction is the bit that seals it. He's usually even braver than she is. I wonder if daemons are more sensitive to atmospheres and the like?

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